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Weird "side-effect" from cleaning my house:  The kids are playing REALLY well together.

I have NO idea why they are playing better.  I don't know if its that a messy house subconsciously makes people stressed or if its because I have been actually busy, instead of "busy" on my phone or computer so they don't feel ignored, they just realize mom is doing her work.

Or if its completely unrelated and just happened to happen at the same time. 

But I am broken in the head, and the fact that they can all play (mostly) nicely together for hours at a time with no intervention makes me a little sad.  Its like I am unnecessary and although its great for them to be independent and bodes very well for their futures, selfishly it makes me a little bit hurt.


That is probably how people become "helicopter parents".  They realize that if they are constantly with their kids, the kids will "need" them to be able to function and so they are needed.  But it is kind of a catch-22 because if they can't function without you, they can't really make it on their own, and to quote (or perhaps paraphrase) my absolute favorite child-rearing expert, John Rosemond (The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children is only $3.82 on the kindle on Amazon!  -  not an affiliate link, I just think EVERYONE should read these books!!) "We are not raising children, we are raising adults". 

It is pretty awesome, and I will probably start blogging more because of the combination of having a clean house (when my house is dirty I waste a lot of time on my phone, but I feel to guilty to sit down and commit to spending time on a planned activity, I am just weird LOL) and independent capable children.  Or I might not, because I am really bad at actually doing things. 

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