Thursday, July 24, 2014

Miss Baby's New Room

So I feel a little guilty.  Miss Baby gets her own blog posts all the time, but Little Guy never does.  But Little Guy just doesn't do as many amusing things.  And when he does, they are more "you had to be there" moments.  Like today, when he was intentionally falling down every step he took.  Funny, yes, but not a very good blog post.

Anyways, back to "business".  My mom and I moved Miss Baby's stuff downstairs, so she and Hadlee can share the biggest bedroom.  She is getting old enough that she should be able to color and play with her "big girl" stuff, but she can't do that when she shares a room with Little Guy because he will either ruin things or eat them.  So now she is in a twin bed, which makes her look SOOOO tiny.

She has been being a horrible brat about going to sleep, and I think her favorite thing to say right now is: "I stay awake.  Tonight I got her to go to sleep without a tantrum, but only after warning her that if she threw a tantrum she would have to stay in bed all day tomorrow.  Hardcore, you bet, but she has been doing this for a few weeks and its getting really, really old.  She knows better, but unless she is going to get in big trouble she won't stop the naughtiness.  

Miss Baby LOVES Bibles.  She has since the day she got here.  She found a tiny little blue Bible and carried it around for months until she was to rough with it and it ripped so I took it away for a little while.  Then she got another Bible and started sleeping with it AND carrying it around.  We moved furniture yesterday and found the little blue Bible under the couch so she started sleeping with that and carrying it around (hey if you are going to have a "security blanket" of sorts, what better choice than a Bible?).  Tonight she asked if she could read her Bible before she went to sleep, and what mom in her right mind could say no to that?  So I went in to check on her, and this is what I saw, so of course I ran over and got the camera, because this picture is just to precious.  

Miss Baby and her "stuff", Snoopy, Bible, and Baa.

Monday, July 21, 2014

Parenting Ponderings

Weird "side-effect" from cleaning my house:  The kids are playing REALLY well together.

I have NO idea why they are playing better.  I don't know if its that a messy house subconsciously makes people stressed or if its because I have been actually busy, instead of "busy" on my phone or computer so they don't feel ignored, they just realize mom is doing her work.

Or if its completely unrelated and just happened to happen at the same time. 

But I am broken in the head, and the fact that they can all play (mostly) nicely together for hours at a time with no intervention makes me a little sad.  Its like I am unnecessary and although its great for them to be independent and bodes very well for their futures, selfishly it makes me a little bit hurt.


That is probably how people become "helicopter parents".  They realize that if they are constantly with their kids, the kids will "need" them to be able to function and so they are needed.  But it is kind of a catch-22 because if they can't function without you, they can't really make it on their own, and to quote (or perhaps paraphrase) my absolute favorite child-rearing expert, John Rosemond (The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children is only $3.82 on the kindle on Amazon!  -  not an affiliate link, I just think EVERYONE should read these books!!) "We are not raising children, we are raising adults". 

It is pretty awesome, and I will probably start blogging more because of the combination of having a clean house (when my house is dirty I waste a lot of time on my phone, but I feel to guilty to sit down and commit to spending time on a planned activity, I am just weird LOL) and independent capable children.  Or I might not, because I am really bad at actually doing things. 

Friday, July 18, 2014

Miss Baby's Anniversary

As of today, I have been a mother for 1 year!  Unlike most people that become mothers, my baby is now 2.5, and probably won't live with me forever. 

Despite the eventual sadness of losing Miss Baby, I would not trade anything in the world for getting to have her in my life, even if it is only temporary.  The suffering of years of infertility were totally worth it to have her be a part of my family.  The absolute unfairness of the fact that she has lived with us for her entire memory and we are her family but she will still probably leave us is terrible.  But (although I am taking it out of context) "it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". 

She is such a fun little girl.  She is sweet and nurturing, and although she does have a stubborn streak she is really learning to be polite and obedient.  She loves to help with the baby and is always wrapping up her baby dolls and feeding them, and changing their diapers.  She loves to color, and to read.  She loves playing at the park and going ANYWHERE with Mama.  Her favorite book is Octopus's Garden, and she loves to sing (or at least request that I sing) songs. 

I am so blessed to have her in my life and this last year has been amazing.  I am so thankful that God has made me a (mostly) "joyful mother".

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children.
Praise ye the Lord!

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Motivated Moms and A Horrible Housewife

Confession:

I am a horrible housewife.  My poor husband often comes home to a VERY messy house for many, many days in a row.  The only time he doesn't is usually if I had someone come over that day, and even then, the cleaning only extends to the main living area.

In fact, until this last week, if you came to my house and it resembled clean, feel very special, because I did it just for you!

Last Wednesday I found an app on my phone called Motivated Moms.  I used the demo version for a day, loved it and I actually PAID for the app!  (In interest of full disclosure, I didn't actually use "real" money, I have the Google Rewards App and I earn money for the app store by doing quick surveys). 

Its basically a glorified to-do list.  But the genius is that you don't have to think at all!  It has almost all the chores that need to be done around the house in a daily list.  It breaks down big jobs like cleaning the fridge into small jobs, like cleaning the drawers in the fridge.  It also lists everyday jobs like laundry and the dishes.  Even things you don't think to do are on the list, like switching your hand towels in the bathroom.   You can add anything you want to (I am really bad about remembering to brush our teeth, so I have added that as a chore that repeats every day) and hide the stuff that doesn't apply to you.  It includes a Bible reading plan and things like exercise and reading to the kids. 

I have only had it for a week, but for that whole week, my house has been clean (well except the formal living room which looks like it has been ransacked, and my bedroom, which I am working on a little at a time).  I have had three people over in the last 7 days and I have not had to clean "for them" at all.  The really amazing part is that Michael has been home almost all of these days and its STILL clean.  It isn't perfect, and some things are not on the list, but because your house is clean you do them anyway (picking up is only listed on Friday, but 1) when something is on the list to clean, you have to pick stuff up before you can clean it anyways and 2) when you spent your morning cleaning house you don't really WANT to be lazy and leave clutter so it looks like crap anyways.) and some things are at different intervals than what might work for your family (I added vacuum to be done everyday because with summer dust and a shedding dog, once a week was not going to cut it.  I use the once a week vacuum to do a GOOD vacuum, like the edges and corners, stairs and hallways). 

Hopefully I can continue my momentum and my house can keep getting cleaner and cleaner, with less and less work.