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Foster Care Adoption After IVF - The Seventh Day Of Christmas

Our story today is from Melinda. 

After battling 3 years of infertility we got the news we would never have a biological child without a lot of help.  We did IVF.  I remember having an overwhelming sense that it was not going to work out for us.  I KNEW we were meant to adopt.  On my bedrest during IVF I was looking at adoption pamphlets!  Not that we weren't completely crushed and heartbroken when we did get the negative test result but we knew what was next. 
We didn't want to wait and we were still paying of medical debt from 3 years of infertility so we decided to adopt through foster care.  Its free.  We had no indication that it would be a fast process, in fact we heard quite the opposite.  We prayed a lot.  I felt in my heart that it would be quick but I didn't feel comfortable telling people that because it just doesn't really work that way...supposedly.  Well we started the process in March 07.  We were done with all the requirements by the beginning of September.  We got a call in September for a 9 month old baby girl.  We were stunned.  We got her on Oct. 1 2007.  When I saw her the first time I just couldn't believe my eyes.  Before me was the most beautiful baby girl I had ever seen!  Today was her 6th birthday and those first moments with her still bring tears to my eyes.

Melinda and her daughter on the day they finalized her adoption.  Have you ever seen a happier looking mama?

Fast forward to today and we have another child with us who we are also adopting through foster care.  He is 6 and we also got chosen the first month for him.  The INSANE part is that during his first overnight visit we got a call for our daughters biological siblings.  Its been one crazy ride and not what I expected at all.  There was a time when I thought we'd never have children of our own and now we are going to have four beautiful children.  There are many struggles but I find that the positive things far outweigh the negatives.  All in all adopting waiting children through foster care has been pretty easy for us.  Its not always that short of a wait but if you're open to it there are a lot of waiting kids that need a mommy and daddy.  I used to be so bitter because I felt like God took away something that every other woman gets to have, a child and pregnancy.  I felt like he had forsaken me but now I see that He has blessed me beyond measure. I feel like the luckiest woman on Earth.  I wish more women could experience the miracle of adoption.

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  1. I really enjoyed reading this because my husband and I are currently doing foster care. We don't know if adoption is in our future or not, but we are trusting God. We didn't go into foster care specifically to adopt, but always said we would consider it if it came up. It looks like the case may be headed that direction.

  2. I really really want 1 more child, we have 2 now. I've been trying to get pregnant for a year now. We might try this if I don't get pregnant soon.


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